For the first 21 years of my life, I knew how to find friends: school, work, extracurricular activities. I always had the convenience of proximity. All my friends came from the places I went. When I graduated from college, I found myself in a whole new world. My new “proximity” is a day at a coffee shop, another at a park, another at my computer at home. The question haunted me for months: how do I find real, caring friends in a new city?