Communication in relationships is important, especially during times of life transition
Life transition is hardly ever easy on its own. Communicating with your loved ones (family, friends, and significant other) is key to paving a smoother path for yourself during this time of change.
Read on to learn why communication in relationships is so crucial right now and what you can say when you're at a loss for words.
First, visualize yourself without communication.
Imagine you are a cute little sailboat hanging out in the middle of the ocean.
The day and scenery are perfect.
Your cute-little-sailboat-self is out there all alone, enjoying the endless water, sky, and sunshine. It's peaceful and quiet, and the small splashes from the sleepy ocean waves lull you into a rejuvenating nap.
There is no way for you to contact anyone on land, and it makes for a very relaxing retreat. There are no calls or notifications from a radio or a cell phone to stir you from your slumber.
Your long, lazy nap is suddenly disturbed by a tremendous roar of thunder.
What is this nonsense??
Apparently, a storm developed while you slept, and you're now faced with the impossible feat of staying afloat in the angry, tossing waves.
After several frantic hours of staying afloat, you manage to crash on an unknown island in the middle of the ocean, and you have found yourself in a Gilligan's Island situation.
There is no way to communicate with someone on mainland, and you are stuck in the middle of the ocean without anyone knowing where you are or how you're doing.
Why is communication so crucial during this life transition?
Don't get stranded.
Well, without any communication with your loved ones, you might find yourself stranded in the middle of an ocean with a storm brewing over your head.
That's certainly not an ideal situation.
What can you do instead?
Instead of stranding yourself and learning how to crack coconuts using your skull on an unknown island (not advised, for the record), you can let your inner circle in on what's going on in your life.
Let your family, friends, and significant other know what you're going through and what they can do to help and support you. They love you, and they want to be there for you. Communication in your relationships will make for much smoother sailing during your life transition.
Make it simpler for your loved ones to read your mind by telling them what is on your mind.
I'll show you how.
Here are some conversations you might need to have during your life transition (and exactly what you can say):
When you need help with something...
Say this: "Hey, [loved one's name]. I'm going through a big life transition right now, and I could really use your help. [Optional - more explanation of your life transition.] Will you [something they can help you with]? I'll treat you to [something fun] afterward!"
Example: "Hey, Anna. I'm going through a big life transition right now, and I could really use your help. I'm moving to my first apartment, and I'm not sure where to start. Will you help me pack up a few boxes from my room? I'll treat you to ice cream afterward!"
When you just need someone to talk to...
Say this: "Hey, [loved one's name]. I'm going through a big life transition right now, and I could really use some time to talk with someone who understands me. Want to meet and catch up over [breakfast/lunch/dinner/coffee/drinks]?"
Example: "Hey, Mom. I'm going through a big life transition right now, and I could really use some time to talk with someone who understands me. Want to meet and catch up over dinner?"
If you find yourself in a conversation where your loved one is convincing you out of a decision you have already made, check out my Clue about dealing with opposition.
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Above all, remember this:
Make your time of transition smoother by opening dialogue and communicating in your relationships.