At some point, you'll ask yourself: "Is this the life I want?"

There will come a point in your life when you ask yourself, "Is this the life I want?"

Your best friend from high school will get married, buy a house, and have 3 perfect babies. Someone you knew from college will travel the world with wild abandon and making a great living. Your brother will graduate law school and roll in the big bucks with his new firm.

But...what do you want to do?

Get in the mindset of experimenting

You wouldn't buy a random pair of jeans without knowing your size and style

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: You'll have to try on at least 100 outfits before you can decide your style. Try everything on for size and find your perfect fit.

Think about how you shop for a pair of jeans. When you're figuring out what size and style to buy, you probably don't pick up a random pair in a random size and bring it up to the register.

You're more methodical than that. You might pick up 2 or 3 sizes to try at a time, and in 2 or 3 different styles. Then, you try them all on and make comparisons, choosing the pair (or pairs) that make you feel your best.

Figuring out what kind of life you want really isn't all that different

Though that's a simple example, there is really not a whole lot of difference when it comes to figuring out what kind of life you want for yourself.

You're going to have to try out different situations, gain new experiences, and be mindful of what you like and dislike along the way.

Maybe part of you secretly wants a little bit of all of those different lifestyles. And maybe that's what your ideal lifestyle actually is.

Or maybe it's not any of those at all, and instead, it's some incredible combination of amazing things you've never even heard of before.

But you won't know for sure if you don't experiment and try new things.


Getting answers for yourself

Once you've got the frame of mind down, the hardest part is knowing where to start.

This is the part where you get answers to your million-dollar question.

You don't have to break the bank with your experimenting.

Find ways to get the experiences you want without investing (potentially) tens of thousands of dollars.

Not sure if you want kids, but those 3 babies look so perfect? Babysit for a few months. Want to travel the world and make a living? Plan a trip of your own and work while you're traveling. Want to be a lawyer? Find a lawyer in town you can shadow.

You get the picture.

Find feasible ways you can test out 100 "outfits". Find out what you love and what you don't like so much.

Then, craft a life of your own. Stop wondering about it and go find out for yourself.

Taking action is more productive than worrying

Worrying won't do you any good. Taking action will teach you about yourself and help you create the life you never knew you always wanted (and frankly, couldn't have known if you never tried it out!).

I know it feels easier said than done.

Here's the trick:

Calm your worrying just enough to be able to take your first step.

Then take your first step in the right direction. Get answers for yourself until you can say, "YES! This is the life I want, and I absolutely love it."


  1. Jay on June 27, 2017 at 11:37 am

    What an AWESOME Clue here! This is absolutely one of my all-time favorites! Thank you so much for the fantastic perspective and ideas to make it happen.

    • Hannah on July 14, 2017 at 8:39 am

      I’m glad you found this Clue so useful, Jay! Especially when we panic (“Is THIS the life I want??”), it’s important to reframe our perspective and take action. Here’s to experimenting and crafting the life you love!

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